I'm trying, I really am. I've been sticking with the book, the one about being from different planets. It started to hit home and make some sense and I could really relate to it. I just can't seem to remember what I read when it comes time to apply the advice in real life, here on Earth. I want badly to nag my man with "have you done this yet? Can you do that soon?" but the book says absolutely not, under any circumstances do that because that makes him feel as though you don't trust him to take of things himself. But I don't! And if he's to go to his cave and I need him for something I can't trust he'll come out by himself! What about MY needs? I want to stop myself from saying things I know might upset him BUT I CAN NOT. It's going to take a lot of work. I can word things differently, that I'm good at. I can word things carefully. Oy. It doesn't help either, that a good portion of the time I'm reading I relate more to the Martians than the Venutians. Hmph. Harrrrumph. Pbbbblt.
Recently I spoke with a relative of mine who said that way back when the book came out there was some controversy because the author claimed to be a doctor and really isn't one. Or maybe he got some shabby degree or certificate that didn't actually count. So the book is his theory? He does share several examples pertaining to his wife and marriage. I dunno. I'll pick it up again soon because it does help me feel normalcy. Relationships have waves and cycles and sometimes they go together and often times not. Sunday night my cycle didn't jive with my mans but then Monday it came together. It's a constant thing. We'll be alright and we both know it. We are trying to understand one another. We are trying to accentuate one another. Sometimes we both just lack the ability to do any of it.